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“You simply cannot craft a successful, rewarding and happy career or life if you don’t know yourself deeply, intimately and fearlessly.”
This outstanding line comes from an article I just read on the always inspiring Forbes.com website. The title of the article is “How Superficiality Will Kill Your Career” and it’s a powerhouse of a read. I’ve talked a lot in this blog about how to be happy at work. There are also countless books published on this topic every year that try to teach this concept.
The very fact that there are so many articles and books on the subject of happiness in the workplace illustrates the extent of our mutual, nationwide discontent at work — but are the solutions we have been coming up with too superficial to really make any profound or lasting changes?
As a manager, are you excited to get to work each day, or are you in the same position as many of your staff –- bored and disgruntled?
Do you believe that what you are doing makes any difference at all?
According to a new article in CEO.com, “Why You Hate Work,” many people in the United States, from every level within a company — right up to the CEO — are just not excited to get out of bed and go to work each morning.
What? Thousands of disaffected, unengaged workers who really don’t want to do the work they are being paid for? Sounds crazy, right?
It’s hard to imagine how this country can stay competitive in commerce with that type of scenario.
On a more personal level, the toll this takes on people must be very heavy, in terms of lack of energy, fading dreams, discontent and –- you guessed it –- stress.
Earlier this month, I blogged about dealing with difficult people in the workplace.
You know the type — People who don’t give their all, don’t communicate. People who are argumentative, defensive, perhaps even overly aggressive.
If you are reading this and shaking your head, I’d like to pose a question:
Are you sure that you, yourself, aren’t guilty of any of these kinds of difficult behaviors?
What if, and let’s be honest here, sometimes you are the difficult one? What is behind this type of behavior? Knowing the answers will help to get your own self-sabotaging behaviors under control, and give you fantastic insights into the behaviors of other people.
Common internal causes of argumentative, defensive, and aggressive behavior include:
• Fear of making a mistake/being wrong
• Fear of looking foolish/being vulnerable
• Fear of being found out as a fraud
• Fear of losing control
• Fear of losing the job/being replaced/passed over
As you can see, the common denominator on that list is fear or insecurity about your abilities or your position.
What makes a truly inspiring leader?
Is it charisma? Confidence? Integrity? Authenticity? The ability to engage and motivate?
BRODY’s Director of Training & Senior Facilitator Amy Glass believes it’s all that and so much more.
How you speak to others, how you respond, how you listen — all of those important communication skills — play a major part in demonstrating executive presence.
Amy will be delivering a workshop on this important topic, “Executive Presence: Increasing Your Command, Confidence & Credibility,” at the ASTD Philadelphia 2014 Regional Conference next Wednesday, May 21.
While the debate as to whether leaders are born or made continues to rage on, research has repeatedly shown that leadership traits can be learned and honed through practice. So, why not sidestep the debate entirely and become proactive?
Last week, I began talking about people’s different behavior styles. A thorough knowledge of which style you fall into — as well as which one your manager and any clients or coworkers you have a tough time communicating with fall into — can be a huge help to you.
The more you know why people respond and react the way they do, and how your style meshes or clashes with theirs, the better you can communicate.
If you missed that blog post, please take a look at it. I believe you’ll find it worthwhile.
I really like this quote from the brilliant Dale Carnegie: “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.”
Let’s continue talking about working with difficult people, because unless you work in a vacuum, you will have to deal with them at one point or other in your career.